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Helping your Student be Successful

As your son or daughter adjusts to the unique challenges of college, he or she may have mixed feelings about sharing their experiences with you. Many students report that a major concern for them is disappointing their parents. Sometimes students avoid talking to parents about problems or concerns because they don’t want to upset or disappoint their parents. As parents you may be unsure how to be helpful and supportive while also encouraging independence and growth. Here are some tips:

  • Be a good listener and encourage your son or daughter, to share his/her excitement, fears, and concerns.
  • Reassure your student that feeling initially overwhelmed by new experiences and a new environment is normal.
  • Try to always convey acceptance and understanding. Remind your student that making mistakes is part of the learning process and that no one is perfect.
  • Try not to take it personally when your student brushes off your advice. Understand that it is important for young adults to learn how to make decisions for themselves and to have a sense of power and control over their lives.
  • Try to encourage your son or daughter to find his or her own solutions to current problems and challenges rather than offering advice. For example, asking “What are your ideas about making things better?” may be a better response than “This is what I think you should do….”
  • When appropriate, encourage your son or daughter to seek out university resources to assist them.
  • Although TAMU-CC prides itself on being a safe campus, it is nevertheless important that students be conscientious about their own safety. Keep residence doors and windows locked. Lock vehicles. Avoid walking alone after dark or late at night or in deserted areas – walk with a buddy or call University Police for a campus escort. Report any suspicious or threatening behavior to University Police at (361)825-4444 or if on campus extension 4444.
  • Do talk to your student about drugs and alcohol. For tips about how to broach this topic, see Talking to Your College Student About Drinking: A Message to Parents.